If you have been married for a couple of years (or even decades), you can be a victim of boring sex routine. Sometimes, this boring routine may gradually become a turn off for your husband too.
If you are aware of this situation in your personal life, and you had a great feeling to get those first days of your marriage back. Then you can learn how to turn your husband on, that will definitely help you overcome the situation.
Remember, you don’t need to be a pornstar to seduce him for having fun nights.
By learning different ways to turn him on in bed, you will not only rekindle your romantic life but also take the pressure off your husband’s mind who would also be in the same thought process.
Now you both can enjoy your love life more lively.
#1. Take the Sexual Initiative
Are you always like your husband to take the lead? Well, it might be boring for him to do the same course every time. You should turn the tables sometimes.
Your husband may not be conveying to you outright, but he will surely appreciate your initiative. For that, you can create a seductive atmosphere in the bedroom to feel him aroused.
You can use several ways to tell your husband that you want to do sex if you are shying in disussing directly.
#2. Never Underestimate Foreplay
Due to today’s hectic and fast lifestyle, we become in a habit of finishing everything fast whether its doing your office work or having sex with your partner.
So during your intimate time, avoid rushing things, don’t skip or shorten the foreplay.
Start things slowly, create a romantic atmosphere by lighting some candles or dimmed led lights, play some soft romantic music, and start the cuddle. You can also start with a salsa together.
Once you have started, let him watch you undress and you can also help him get put off his clothes.
During undressing each other, use your hands and lips throughout his body, this will surely turn your husband on.
#3. Give Him a Sexual Massage
You can simply offer him a massage to help him relax. You can unwind a little in the start and then turn into a sexy one. You can start with massaging his scalp first, and then ask him to lie down on the bed on the stomach and apply some warm oil on his back and start with some sensual strokes, or you can rub your assets with his body.
While massaging his thighs try to be a little mischievous to play your fingers around his tool. I am sure that this massage session will let him sexually devour you in the best way ever.
Don’t forget to dim the lights, light some candles, play romantic music and apply perfume on your right places.
#4. Dirty Talk
Most women think that “Talking dirty” means talking nonsense or using bad language on their men, but in actual, dirty talk is talking something naughty, not literally “dirty”.
You might be knowing that men can get turned on easily by what they see, but you might ignore that your words can also play an important role to arouse him sexually and to satisfy him.
You can use words like “I want to feel you inside me” or “ I want you to hit the spot again”. Such kinda talk would ignite the spark inside him that will turn him on sexually.
He might be worried about your “being a mom” journey, and when you will initiate with such dirty stuff, he might get some confidence to have some fun together.
#5. Get Some Sexy Lingerie
I know you are facing changes in your body physically and mentally but you know having sex during pregnancy is really really good for you. Sex will help you lower the blood pressure, induce better sleep and excrete happy hormones.
So just forget whats going on inside you and look in the mirror – Have you noticed that your boobs are much better now? This is one of the “Pros” of pregnancy (for your husband, not you) ;).
So you can utilize this “Pros” and get you some sexy maternity lingerie to get him in the mood and enjoy a wonderful night.
#6. Let Him Massage You
During pregnancy, your body changes a lot and excess secretion of several hormones results in dry skin, so body oils and lotions can help you cover the lack of oil in the body.
You can take advantage of this situation by asking your husband to apply moisturizer (Ayurvedic oil would be preferred) on your body. Ask him to start from neck and shoulders and take it downwards carefully.
You can now easily turn this relaxing massage session into a sexy one to seduce your husband.
#7. Find Comfortable Position
A big baby bump during pregnancy makes it impossible to do in a regular position like a missionary. This may be turning you both off and you both were avoiding.
But take a second thought, make this shortcoming your advantage. Because this is the time when you try new positions rather than using those boring routine positions.
Discussing about Pregnancy special positions like sideways position or spooning will turn him on as you both will be able to enjoy your togetherness safely.
You can also use pillows to support your hips while having sex.
#8. Build Anticipation
Giving him some hints to look forward is a very attractive way to turn your husband on before going to bed. You can seed a curiosity in his mind to make him think about you and what you are gonna do tonight.
How to build the anticipation?
Well, it’s all up to your creativity. Means how creatively you can use powerful words to get him excited. For example, you can write him a note or send a text like “I wanna get crazy with you tonight” or “I am gonna wear the sexy lingerie that you gifted me”. You can use your own words because you know your husband better.
Another way is to touch him deliberately.. A subtle touch can increase his anticipation. You can hug him tight while he is leaving for office or you can play your fingers around his neck while he is having his breakfast. You have better tools in your arsenal. Lol.
#9. A Surprise in the Shower
Men really like the sexual encounters in the shower. So stop planning about your boring sexual routine in bed and ignite the spark in the shower.
You can surprise your husband in the shower, by entering the bathroom in just the upper and teasing him seductively by moving your hands over his body, kissing him wildly and you will turn him on in no time.
#10. Your Natural Body Will Do Wonders
Putting on the scent that your husband gifted you, or wearing perfume that he likes to smell on you, are common tactics.
But if you want to really entice your husband tonight, forget the perfume. Just take a shower and don’t apply anything on your body. Your natural body odor has the power to arouse your husband significantly. When he’ll take a sniff of your body odor and he will not able to avoid you anymore.
#11. Compliment His Lips
Lean in close to him, touch your assets with his body and tell him that his lips are amazing and you have always loved his lips.
And that’s it. You won’t have to do anything else, he will be knowing what’s going on in your mind, so he’ll be ready to do whatever you like.
#12. Use Body Language
You can attract your husband using your body language. But you have to appear sensual in front of him.
Give him a tight, long hug, a sudden long kiss on his lips will be wonderful. You can bite his ears, play with his hair or toss your hair in front of him, make a lusty eye contact with him and the list goes on. All these attempts will help you turn your husband on.
#13. A Long Eye Contact
There’s a famous quote – “Eyes say it all”. And this is 100% true.
You can also say a lot with your eyes. What you have to do is just catch his gaze for sometime (a few seconds) and you will be able to communicate your intentions.
Use your eyes to enchant him, if you could emit all that seductive energy through eye to eye contact, I promise you’ll get a revert back for sure.
#14. A Secret Signal
Devising a secret signal is among the best ways to turn him on because it increases anticipation. You can give him hints in several ways.
For example, you can indicate what you’re thinking by touching his hair, or by squeezing his finger or by arranging his tie. If you do it at the appropriate moment, that subtle clue will surely turn your husband on.
#15. Wear Attractive Clothes
As you already know that men are visual creatures, you can easily make him think about you all day long by wearing eye-catching.
Remember, all men including your husband find “body curves” attractive. So you can try some clothes that highlight your curves. His mind will be at the right place, where you want him as soon as you will come in front of him.
#16. Bite Your Lips
Biting your own lips is among the classic ones and truly works. You just have to bite your lips while staring at him and let him notice.
No need to overdo it, but make the lip bite really subtle. You’ll find his attention fixed on your lips and that will be the hint that your husband is turned on because the mouth is generally linked with all the naughty stuff you do.
If you are getting in the mood during daytime when your husband is away, send him a very seductive text to let him know your feelings. You can also send some sexy pics, your own selfie with some assets exposed or you can even send some adult emojis in the text.
You can get as creative as you want to be, All your efforts will make your husband turn on.
#18. Show Affection to Your Husband
If your husband does not feel confident about his looks and that is the reason for not being intimate with you. Then, being his better half, you have to show him affection continuously and tell him that you love him the way he is. Tell him that you find his body hot and irresistible.
Keep cuddling him, kissing him and keep on giving the complements as and when possible that will boost his self-esteem.
All your efforts will eventually make him feel desirable and he will make him reciprocate with much love.
#19. Access His Heart Through His Stomach
You might not be aware of this but a good food can easily lighten up your husband’s mood and you can further entice him by eating your meal in a sensual way to catch his attention.
Prepare an amazing dinner for your husband with all his top favourites.
To a further extent you can use food stuff like choco sauce, or ketchup to seduce him while starting lovemaking. Just sprinkle some sauce on his collar bone if he is sitting and lick it off.
#20. Change Your Looks
Try something different before going to bed. If you always wear white lingerie for bed, try red ones with a garter belt.
Or you can go with the same undies and just color your lips bright red.
You can also try a new hairdo because men like variations, so keep him on his toes by surprisingly changing your looks all of a sudden. All that freshness and enthusiasm will automatically turn him on.
#21. View Old Photos Together
Simply take out your wedding album or open your honeymoon photos on the laptop and relive those unforgettable memories.
You can easily trigger those same feelings of love (and lust) that you had back then when you were newly married by going in the flashback and cherish those moments.
You both will feel the urge of re-creating those moments again.
#22. Play with His Earlobes
You can whisper something into your husband’s earlobes to him goosebumps, and exaggerate the feeling by slightly touching them with your lips.
Start tossing with his hair and then gently massage his earlobes with your finger and thumb.
You can also give the earlobes a slight tug down. You can turn your husband on, by igniting the sensory receptors in that area.
#23. Footsie is Still Effective
Footsie is an old classical trick but very effective. When you’re having dinner together or even with friends, remove your shoe under the table and explore his legs with your toes.
Apply footsie while you’re doing some normal conversation, but he’ll get the message.
#24. Rub Your Fingers on His Lower Back
Graze your fingers past his lower back and linger there for just a second to thrill your husband. Men feel a lot of sensitivity in that area so it’s a definite way to get your husband to turn on while you’re showing him the scenic view in front of you.
#25. Flirt Him in the Public
Whenever you’re in the public like in a restaurant or on the pavement, just flirt with him.
Grab his gaze and wink with a sexy smile or say something bold like “I know you’re hot and I’m available tonight.” 😉
You can’t find anything sexier than inventing different ways to make your husband turn on. Such efforts reflect your care and your willingness to keep the flame alive. I hope these time-tested ways will help you to seduce him so you can heat up the bedroom. Best wishes !